Should I Share the Joy of Bad Actions of Others?

Appreciative joy is an attitude where you enjoy their joy. There is still the issue of karma with appreciative joy. What you are saying is that you cannot feel all out joy because the happiness is offset by the karma you see being created from the actions like stealing or taking advantage of somebody. 

Say a friend is driving at 140 miles an hour in the new Porsche he just stole and he is having a really exciting time. Although I get their joy, my spontaneous joy is offset by the karmic situation joy because I know the problems not too far down the road are going to overwhelm that joy. There's greater sympathetic joy when the karmic consequences are more sustainable. 

We need to understand the karmic consequences they would face with compassion and not with judgmentalism. The wholesomeness and sustainability of their action that allow you to have more or less sympathetic joy. 

But don't go by your value. You may decide you don't want to have a baby no matter what. I'm not doing babies. But that doesn't mean that you can't have incredible joy for somebody who's enjoying their baby. You don't have to put a judgment on something that is not unwholesome and is human.

The two biggest ways the self reemerged is with judgmentalism and righteousness. If you're ever judgmental, the self has reemerged worse than ever before and you probably should have never started to practice because now you're even proud. You think you're better. Arrogance has seeped into your judgmentalism. 

There's two places to see the self: irritation and judgmentalism. It snuck back in through the back door. How can you be judgmental if you have compassion or loving kindness? How can you have irritation if you have compassion?